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see potential job as a means of salvation because it’s a source of steady income. not salvation, dear one. Loving Kindness is the only source of that.


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Just a reminder: I’m posting snippets from my Alternate Handwriting sessions. [For more about AH, check out my website at www.bettyrogers.com]  Although written by and “to” me, I hope these glimmers are also of service to you. Here’s one for today:

You’re not going to be able to think your way thru this. Loving Kindness is the way thru this.

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remember that you’re being cared for. you feel alone but you’re not.

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Christopher is the Communications Director for a large corporation. He came to his alternate handwriting session feeling frustrated — to put it mildly — about his job. He said he had a major plan due in a couple of weeks and felt ‘frozen’ in his ability to finish it. Even though he also knew he was more than qualified to do so.

He went on to say that he didn’t fit into the work environment. His colleagues were researchers and scientists, and took everything ‘very seriously.’ They didn’t understand that their clients needed a different type of communication style, something Christopher had been diligently telling them for a long time. He couldn’t get through to them, he said. They wouldn’t listen.

He started his session head-on.

Dominant Hand: Is there a way to make my current job fun?

Alternate Hand: I can laugh more.

DH: How?

AH: I can not take things so seriously.

DH: Why do I want to cry?

AH: Because I am not having fun. I am scared.

DH: How can I laugh at work?

AH: Have confidence in plan. Write it and then live it.

DH: Can we be successful doing this custom brand?

AH: Yes.

DH: How?

AH: Sell it to everyone we see. They can learn to like it.

DH: Why is it hard for me to sell?

AH: I am so different. I don’t think the same way.

DH: Do they want me to think the same way?

AH: No.

Christopher sat back and looked at the writing, then at me. ‘They don’t want me to think the same way. That’s why they hired me. Here I am thinking they don’t trust me but really, they want me to be who I am.’

I suggested a question and he wrote,

DH: What would happen if I laughed more at work?

AH: I would get more done. I would be happier. It would be easier to go there. It would be fun.

I think it’s fair to say that he left the session feeling about 10 pounds lighter.

A few days later I called him at work and to my delight he answered the phone laughing. He said he’d been following his alternate hand’s advice and was having a blast. So was his staff. They were preparing for a pre-meeting meeting and enjoyed, among other things, calling it a pre-meeting meeting.

Later he sent this email: ‘The meeting went well today. The big one will now be on Thursday, but we primed the pump. I did the right thing by asking lots of questions that made people stop and think. I am proud of the work I am doing.’

Me, too, Christopher.

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you were very sickly for first 3 years, until tonsils out. security blanket helped you feel better. what could be a new one?

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fretting won’t pay the mortgage or do anything beneficial.

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Caroline is tall, with a dominating presence. She makes her living telling people what to do, at their request.

Her work keeps her physically active, but she has health problems. She’s at risk for heart disease.

Her work keeps her physically active, but she has health problems. She’s at risk for heart disease.

Her first question her dominant hand wrote was, “Why can’t I organize myself enough to lose weight?”

Her alternate hand didn’t respond. I noted that the word “organize” indicated that her rational left brain was doing its best to maintain control. I suggested that she reword her question to make it more curious, less accusatory.

Dominant Hand: What’s stopping me from losing weight?

Alternate Hand: Insecurity

DH: Insecure about what?

AH: The future

DH: In what way?

AH: With Daniel [her husband]

DH: What am I afraid of?

AH: That I don’t really want to stay with him

DH: But I am going to stay with him so why not lose weight?

AH: Laziness. It is easier on myself.

At this point Caroline started talking. She told me she lost her first husband to cancer when they were both young. She found “the love of my life” and then lost him to Lou Gehrig’s Disease. She has been with Daniel for several years and is comfortable with him. There was no way she would end the relationship. She’d been through too much loss and heartbreak and would not deprive herself of the security of her marriage.

It is easier on myself, her alternate hand wrote, to continue a comfortable marriage and be lazy about losing weigh. But she felt she was punishing her body, she said, cursing it by not taking proper care. Since ‘curse’ is such a strong term, I suggested she write about it. Her dominant hand asked, “Could I curse myself to be healthy?”

And her alternate hand responded, Yes – I swear it to God!

I sent Caroline a draft of this blog and asked her if she’d noticed anything about the “cursed” weight issue. I added that it would be nice to have a wrap-up after that astounding last sentence from her alternate hand. She replied: ‘I am now working with a personal trainer and keeping a food journal. Ha!’

I read that as a pretty triumphant ‘ha.’

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