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Just a reminder: these are snippets from my Alternate Handwriting sessions. [For more about AH, check out some of my early blogs,] Although written by and “to” me, I hope these glimmers are also of service to you. There’s one for today below. PLEASE NOTE that any advertisements that may appear are not approved or sanctioned by me.

encourage Little Betty [inner child] to come out to play – to have fun & feel good – when you notice Judge Betty [inner critic] kicking in. and practice noticing! JB’s a pretty constant force that could stand some pruning.

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loved parts of the show [Finding Neverland] about being childlike, holding on to playfulness & letting imagination soar. find time for that whenever you can, dear one.

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listen for the happy small voice of Little Betty & let her prevail over bossy Judge Betty. LB’s much more fun.


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very aware of importance of praising children & noticing them kindly.

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Dominant Hand [after writing about childhood]: Whoa. As usual, seeing patterns is powerful. Poor little girl. No wonder she’s defensive.

taught to be early. remember, this isn’t about blame but clarity. accept understanding as a gift, dear one.


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Dominant Hand: Am I being very brave, or crazy?

resourceful! trusting! following bliss! being kind to inner child and telling inner critic to take a hike!

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encourage Little Betty [my inner child] to ‘come out,’ to react and act with no expectations or judgment. keep her safe as she sparkles.

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all of the things you love about [my inner child] — her innocence, trust, playfulness, curiosity, happiness, silliness, acceptance, joy —  remain a part of you.

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teacher wrote you were a ‘serious little girl’ in kindergarten. ‘very serious.’ avoiding ‘big trouble.’ dear little girl doing the best she could. understanding her would be a blessing to both of you.

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Evelyn hates to write. She’s a very busy woman. In the past she’s owned a bakery and a tee-shirt company, both highly successful enterprises. Now she’s establishing a new business.

She needs to write a website. She needs to write a brochure. She needs fliers for her classes. She hates to write but she needs to write and keeps putting it off. Evelyn is very annoyed with the whole concept of writing.

When I first mentioned alternate handwriting, she was unenthusiastic, to put it mildly. Wasn’t I listening? She hates to write! She has too much to write already! Why would she want to do more writing?

Evelyn is also kind-hearted and generous. She had spent several hours leading me through whole-brain psychological “exercise” classes. She knew I wanted to repay her for her time and expertise by taking her through an alternate handwriting session. (See previous blog re: grim financial situation. It continues but I can barter with the best of them.)

So, more as a favor to me than because she wanted to, which she didn’t, Evelyn agreed to try AH. And here was a new response: absolute hilarity. Her handwriting took her directly back to her childhood, when writing was a game. She talked about learning how to write in cursive and how exciting that had been. She said the letters looked like artwork. She giggled the whole time she wrote with her alternate hand.

She actually wrote something about strangling her sister, but she laughed in delight as she wrote it. She looked at me happily as she read aloud what she’d written. She told me stories about her family, how they changed their Eastern European names when they emigrated to the U.S. many decades ago to escape the pogroms. Then continued to change the names until they sounded WASP enough for the very WASP-centric city where they settled.

“This is so much fun!” she exclaimed several times. When I asked if she wanted to write more about dealing with her sister she said no, she already knew how (and it didn’t include murder). She thanked me several times and her face and posture were noticeably lighter.

Responding to the act of writing, rather than to the content, allowed Evelyn to go to that part of herself that loves making “artwork.” Back to the days when writing was an adventure, a playful activity.

She’s holding onto that sense of delight. She recently told me that AH allowed her “to feel really creative… like getting my fingers into the clay as a kid.” As for the writing she needs to do: she’s found someone to do it for her. Evelyn is no slouch when it comes to bartering, either.

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Part 5 of Circuitous Path to AH is in Pages. Thanks to Mr. Springsteen for the photo and many years of stellar music.

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